Man sitting on beach
Far too often we hear preachers say, in your loneliness you should just obey God and all will be okay. While that may be true, does it take away the loneliness? To deny the anguish and the pain and the heaviness of not having anyone to physically share our lives with, is to deny our humanity. God made us to be relational, social, affectionate, loving beings. So to those pastors who tell people just to obey, you clearly have no idea the toll that loneliness can have on the spirit, the mental health and the physical health of a human being.
Sometimes loneliness is a test from God, for a season. However, God may call some of us to singleness so that his purposes can be fulfilled through you. Nevertheless. if you don’t want to be single and you don’t feel called to a life of singleness but can’t seem to shake this pathological singleness, then there might be a spirit holding you back from a relationship or marriage. Could be old Satan, a generational curse or even an evil spirit attacking your relational life.
The solution? Well there are only a couple. The first is to pray for God to break the spirit of singleness and to believe and trust that the curse has been broken. The next is to actively and faithfully seek friendships by joining your church community or other groups. Just find something that you enjoy doing and join a group for it. It could open doors for new relationships. The other alternative is to go on a dating app and do so in faith and ask the holy spirit to guide you to the right match.
Dating in itself is complicated these days for non-Christians, so can you imagine how severe it is for Christian folk? God’s grace is sufficient and through his grace he may lead you to your significant other. God understands what you are going through, he planted those feelings of desire and need for connection, but it takes some work on our part, so that God can do his part. God hasn’t promised us a spouse, but he does promise us that whatever we ask that is good, in his name, he will give it. It’s already done. The hard part is the waiting. While you wait, why not have some fun and get a makeover, a new haircut or new wardrobe. But in the waiting stay prayerful and stay of a sober mind. Satan remains on the prowl.
Stay blessed and may all singles find love, in the name of Jesus.
